One way I have messed with my hubby, in the past, was to tell him he could take a normal, no frills handjob (it had already been 6 weeks) now- or have orgasms until he begs me to stop if he asked me to deny him for another month. I warned him that I would tease mercilessly durng the month. He was not keen on the month thing... but the more I worked him up and teased that I really wanted to give him an awesome night, with all the orgasms he could stand, he gave in and asked me for another month of teasing.
I really worked him up during that time. When the time came to release him, he was ecstatic! Once I tied him down and removed his steel cage- he was given the guidelines for the night. He would absolutely get all the orgasms he could stand, for the next hour- but then he got the rest of the plan. I have a thick metal ruler, and he was informed that I would provide alternating ball strikes, to each testicle, and each one would buy him 5 heavenly strokes with my mouth, hand or vagina (his choice). Then he would get his 5 strokes toward the next orgasm- and then his other nut would be struck. By the time he reached 20 heavenly ups and downs with my mouth- each nut had taken two hard strikes. Even though my mouth was driving him wild and making him crazy with lust- the alternating ball strikes were insuring that he was not getting to shoot anytime soon. I raised the stakes- I told him he could cum in my mouth anytime he was ready. His hour ended with a raging hard on that never actually came- and 12 brutal strikes to each nut. His aching dick was locked back up and I told him that maybe we could do it again, when he was horny enough to need the orgasm and actually cum. Then, we put the hollow dildo over his chastity device and he got to give me my orgasms before we went to sleep.