Wycked_Syren
05-08-2008, 04:46 PM
There's a very large F/f Femdom community in SL, and they were feeling under represented in my "Talks", and since I've yet to have an ongoing relationship with a femsub - I didn't feel qualified enough to speak on the topic myself. So I invited a good friend and sim neighbor, Lea Cummings to present on the topic as a Special Guest.
***her permission to post her essay here:
[10:47] Lea Cummings: Hi MWK. You sure have! I feel honored you ask for
my talk :)***
T&D Pt3 - Teasing and Denying the Femsub
The following are my personal impressions and your mileage on this may vary.
Teasing and denial with girls differs in some ways from doing it with boys, and most of you will agree on this, i think.
Most males are easy to arouse and teasing them with denial then is pretty easy to do in the sense, that they are already a victim of their permanent desire for sex.
Evolution has programmed them to spread their DNA by jumping on every girl, whose look meets some kind of "standards", which tells the guys in less than a second to take it or leave it.
Its also the same with computers - they can only handle two states, and they switch states in nearly no time
It doesnt take much for a man to "get ready", a simple physical contact or even a picture of a hot woman will get them hard and then there are lots of possibilities to tease them with it, as we have discussed this in the last talks here.
For most of us girls, it needs a bit more to get us going and the times between arousals are much longer compared to the 2-3 seconds men would need.
However, thats the average. Just to mention, there are also girls who have got a pretty "male" libido .... dont worry, i wont tell names here
So it is my experience, that a domme needs to care a bit more about building up the desire for sex of a girl, to have something which can be denied then to tease her.
You may think, thats pretty paradox and yes, there are other desires, that can be used more easily on a girl than the denial of sex.
The most crulest would be - you guessed it - the denial of SHOPPING
I havent used it for D/s till now, so I cant tell yet if its somthing you should try, but i ve heard that many husbands use it to ruin their marriage, so be careful ..
Girls can be teased with similar devices like being used on boys.
A well known device to make sure that there is no touching or even penetrating is the chastity belt, which is available in may variations. Locked up in one of these, a girl may think much more and often about sex, than she would without it. So with the physical denial of something that she would not normally think a lot of, when not wearing it, you may manage to build it up for her much more.
Even more tickling than a physical lockup may be a "mind lock". Dont put any restraints or chastity on her, she even might love to wear such ...... (Lea Cummings looks at her girl) .
Just tell her that she is denied and she needs no restraints, cause you trust her with it.
She would have to report any violation of this to you imediately . Then let her run around for some days.
Very often she will be seduced by herself or any other person soon enough, to break the denial. Then she will trouble herself to tell you or not, or when and how. You just watch that struggle and dont need to do much, just tell her how much you trust in her and how proud you are of her and pretend to not notice her trouble, till she finaly has to admit it and you have to punish her for it.
Another teaser is pretty obvious also. What do we girls like most? Right, to look good. So just hide all her charms, put her in latex suit or a hilarious dress, cover her beautiul hair with a hood and hide her face behind a mask and .... (Lea Cummings has a quick look at her girl again) ... be prepaired, that some girls even love that ...
Denial of speaking is also a punishment for most women. Tell her to shut up for some days (a softer form may be garbled speech with a gag) and you might see a pretty poor girl very soon.
So you see, teasing with denial not always works. But there is the other direction left also.
Forced arousals and even orgasms. In my opinion, its much easier to tease a girl with that, than with denial.
You can force her to use gadgets like plugs or dildos for some time, even days, or more sophisticated, may be remote controlled vibrating loveballs, she has to insert. Then take her out in public and after she has forgotten about it a bit, switch on the vibration in her and watch her bending ...
You also might order her to masturbate at least one time a day or more, if the likes it or not and make her report the details of it to you.
But that needs a lot of trust and a pretty close relation and is not recomended for beginners.
Also bringing her close with any of the old methods and then spoiling her orgasm just before she is about to come, is an evil teaser. You may do that just by order, which takes a pretty obediant girl, or with a bucket of cold water, which works 100%, even for men, lol
***her permission to post her essay here:
[10:47] Lea Cummings: Hi MWK. You sure have! I feel honored you ask for
my talk :)***
T&D Pt3 - Teasing and Denying the Femsub
The following are my personal impressions and your mileage on this may vary.
Teasing and denial with girls differs in some ways from doing it with boys, and most of you will agree on this, i think.
Most males are easy to arouse and teasing them with denial then is pretty easy to do in the sense, that they are already a victim of their permanent desire for sex.
Evolution has programmed them to spread their DNA by jumping on every girl, whose look meets some kind of "standards", which tells the guys in less than a second to take it or leave it.
Its also the same with computers - they can only handle two states, and they switch states in nearly no time
It doesnt take much for a man to "get ready", a simple physical contact or even a picture of a hot woman will get them hard and then there are lots of possibilities to tease them with it, as we have discussed this in the last talks here.
For most of us girls, it needs a bit more to get us going and the times between arousals are much longer compared to the 2-3 seconds men would need.
However, thats the average. Just to mention, there are also girls who have got a pretty "male" libido .... dont worry, i wont tell names here
So it is my experience, that a domme needs to care a bit more about building up the desire for sex of a girl, to have something which can be denied then to tease her.
You may think, thats pretty paradox and yes, there are other desires, that can be used more easily on a girl than the denial of sex.
The most crulest would be - you guessed it - the denial of SHOPPING
I havent used it for D/s till now, so I cant tell yet if its somthing you should try, but i ve heard that many husbands use it to ruin their marriage, so be careful ..
Girls can be teased with similar devices like being used on boys.
A well known device to make sure that there is no touching or even penetrating is the chastity belt, which is available in may variations. Locked up in one of these, a girl may think much more and often about sex, than she would without it. So with the physical denial of something that she would not normally think a lot of, when not wearing it, you may manage to build it up for her much more.
Even more tickling than a physical lockup may be a "mind lock". Dont put any restraints or chastity on her, she even might love to wear such ...... (Lea Cummings looks at her girl) .
Just tell her that she is denied and she needs no restraints, cause you trust her with it.
She would have to report any violation of this to you imediately . Then let her run around for some days.
Very often she will be seduced by herself or any other person soon enough, to break the denial. Then she will trouble herself to tell you or not, or when and how. You just watch that struggle and dont need to do much, just tell her how much you trust in her and how proud you are of her and pretend to not notice her trouble, till she finaly has to admit it and you have to punish her for it.
Another teaser is pretty obvious also. What do we girls like most? Right, to look good. So just hide all her charms, put her in latex suit or a hilarious dress, cover her beautiul hair with a hood and hide her face behind a mask and .... (Lea Cummings has a quick look at her girl again) ... be prepaired, that some girls even love that ...
Denial of speaking is also a punishment for most women. Tell her to shut up for some days (a softer form may be garbled speech with a gag) and you might see a pretty poor girl very soon.
So you see, teasing with denial not always works. But there is the other direction left also.
Forced arousals and even orgasms. In my opinion, its much easier to tease a girl with that, than with denial.
You can force her to use gadgets like plugs or dildos for some time, even days, or more sophisticated, may be remote controlled vibrating loveballs, she has to insert. Then take her out in public and after she has forgotten about it a bit, switch on the vibration in her and watch her bending ...
You also might order her to masturbate at least one time a day or more, if the likes it or not and make her report the details of it to you.
But that needs a lot of trust and a pretty close relation and is not recomended for beginners.
Also bringing her close with any of the old methods and then spoiling her orgasm just before she is about to come, is an evil teaser. You may do that just by order, which takes a pretty obediant girl, or with a bucket of cold water, which works 100%, even for men, lol