Why Havent We

[whirlingskirt]

Heard from any females that like to be teased (and denied)????

[wt1262001]

lol, interesting question ... hmmmm ... maybe Females like pain too ... :D

[whirlingskirt]

I should think it would be much easier for a female.....
Afterall, she can lie about whether or not she has had an orgasm...?

[wt1262001]

lol, i would not know about that as i am not a Female ....

well, a way to get around that problem would be to keep the teasing within a day and make sure that she is naked @ all times ... lol

Why?...I'll tell you why...because most women are far too smart to believe they'll get what they need here...If they are into T&D, they know they'll just run into individuals looking to get-off or use them for their own momentary desires & then get left behind, forgotten about, as the user moves on to someone else...So that's probably why there aren't any women who like to be teased around here.

[whirlingskirt]

My Goodness CBT. Your pessimism is underwhelming. :!:

first you say:

"because most women are far too smart to believe they'll get what they need here..."

This implies that the men *arent* smart enough to figure that out? You seem pretty intelligent to me. :idea: And do you think females will get what they 'need' here?
Doubtful. It works both ways.


and then you say:

"they know they'll just run into individuals looking to get-off or use them for their own momentary desires & then get left behind, forgotten about, as the user moves on to someone else..."

:roll:

The way i see it---This is an internet site for goodness sakes! There are no committments and dedications here that rival reality. If a woman truly NEEDS T & D, she should seek it for herself in her real life. Additionally--perhaps rather than seeking a mere playmate for her deviant desires, she should look for friendship and companionship over and above the sexual gratification of 'getting off'. Friendship means you may be gone but never forgotten.

I like to think that the 'friends' i have made here will continue to be friendly and approachable whether or not i post daily, or whether i visit the chat room. If not, then
a) i was mistaken and it is one of internets tiny lessons
b) this isnt the site to spend my time and energy.
c) I have unrealistic expectations

I dunno bout you but I dont necessarily come here to 'get off'. I have contributed questions to the forum, teases, thoughtful discussion and offered my opinions on many topics.

And so far, i have seen relatively few dominant women OR men taking part in discussions, even tho there are over 1000 members, and the discussions are well-read.

So...thanks for your thoughts, but i dont agree (at all) with your ideas about why the females arent participating.

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[Horus]

I think it lies in the psychology:
Females are simply much better in controlling their urges. It sometimes even seems as if they would have not such a severe libido as males have.
So, it is much harder to get a woman into begging for release.
And speaking honest, most women often had to endure being on the brink and stop, without intention of the male...

[whirlingskirt]

Hi Horus!

Thanks for your interesting comment.
I dont know about you---but sometimes my libido aches for exercise. There are times when i cant get enough. More sex and orgasms isnt the answer for those times (in my humble opinion) it is in the psycology of it, as you mentioned. Using creativity to scratch those incessant itches makes a difference in my level of satisfation in release.
Maybe that is why this site provides such stimulation and inspiration for me :D

I would like to see more women at the site PERIOD.
Teas-ers AND teas-ees!
You didnt mention your particular 'kink', but im sure you wouldnt mind sharing the site with sub-females, as well as those from the FemDom kingdom...?

[MissKyttenspet]

Well to add my 2 cents worth to the conversation, I would love to be in the chat room some nite to see Mistress Kytten or Whirlingskirt, or any other Dominate Female, dominating another female, denying her release.

Don't get me wrong, i am truly the s in a loving D/s relationship, but I would love to sit back and see that some time.


toy

[Horus]

I dont know about you---but sometimes my libido aches for exercise. There are times when i cant get enough.

I will let you know: That is one of the most true sentences of the recent years. I do nearly always ache for more. I just cannot get enough. But, as i am interested in the women (like most men). I somehow have the feeling that their need (or maybe even greed) is not as strong as it is among us male earthlings.


You didnt mention your particular 'kink', but im sure you wouldnt mind sharing the site with sub-females, as well as those from the FemDom kingdom...?

Definately i do not mind. I would really love to have my theory negated. And of course, the number of choices improves their quality.
I am a fan of females. There should be much more of them on earth, and especially here.
My paticular 'kink'? I'll let you know in a 1on1 conversation.

[No-Play]

WS more active people in general on these boards would be great! Good to see it starting up well though! Not into true Dom/Sub things myself my wife teases me all the time which is fantastic but we do have a RL with kids etc to fit in too <sigh> hehe

[whirlingskirt]

Not into true Dom/Sub things myself my wife teases me all the time which is fantastic but we do have a RL with kids etc to fit in too <sigh> hehe

Hi No-Play--

I am curious about your definition of *true* Dom/Sub things...?
For instance:
If you enjoy your wife arousing you, and leaving you wanting more, without her permission for release, isnt THAT a sub thing?
If your wife enjoys taking a dominant role in pleasuring herself, and teasing you, then isnt that a DOM thing?
I dont want to get too hung up on D/s titles here, but dont get caught up in the realm that has such a negative stigma attached to it!
Perhaps you really ARE into the D/s thing, and are just havent labeled it as such?
There are varying levels of D/s. Some people like pain, others like the clothing, some prefer humiliation...etc. Just because you dont go for the whole thing, doesnt mean that it *isnt* a true 'd/s relationship occasionally, right? A pleasant mix of vanilla and red seems ideal to me!

How fortunate that you are able to enjoy such play with your wife---even AFTER marriage and kids!

[sillyboy]

In my fairly limited experience of such things, women have a harder time reaching orgasm, so they would often find that they are being teased and denied without even specifically desiring it. Men on the other hand can fairly easily reach orgasm no matter what, so long as they continue to possess their opposable thumb and an imagination.

Just some ideas :) (I like the old ascii emoticons :)

[Four_Inch_Heels1]

sillyboy wrote:
In my fairly limited experience of such things, women have a harder time reaching orgasm, so they would often find that they are being teased and denied without even specifically desiring it.

Those are my feelings on why there aren't more females looking to be teased. Back in the days when "casual sex" was still relatively safe, I took advantage of the freedom, and although I have been with many men in real life; I can count on one hand the number I have reached orgasm with. IMHO, many/most women are left unsatisfied and wanting more, so, to desire being denied "for fun" just doesn't seem logical. It would just be more "business as usual".

[teased2tears]

I believe that there are more than a few professional writers who visit our forum. Perhaps they could send quieries to main stream publishers, (Cosmopolitan? ) about this 'interesting new kink'. Barring that, we could also slip in the names of a few womens magazines into the text of our posts, (think search engine...) that might be read by the type of woman who we imagine may care to visit this site, if they only knew about it! Any suggestions? Cosmo, Vogue, Oprah. (O.K. ...I'm just kidding about Oprah !!!) :)