Dear TD Mistress,

I’ve really enjoyed reading your first two columns. You seem like a very level-headed person who is very knowledgeable about chastity and it’s effect on the male brain. My question is this: my experience with being kept chaste isn’t massive, but various partners of mine have been willing to try it enough that I’ve noticed that my brain seems to function differently when I’m being teased and denied. It’s almost like my brain gets re-wired somehow. What’s going on here?

Sincerely,

Hard Wired

Dear Wired,

First of all, thank you for your compliments on my hard work. Hopefully I’m able to help you, and others with their safe exploration into tease, denial, and chastity.

It seems you’ve come upon the first steps of tease and denial and in many ways having a woman teasing you until you are dripping precum all over her silk stockings isn’t that abnormal. I’ll explain it all in one simple word: ‘Foreplay’. Foreplay is not only fun, but also necessary in every sexual relationship. Without it, partners end up feeling taken for granted and just ‘used for sex’ or for the ‘quickie’. Teasing is very much part of foreplay. Foreplay is when you make each other excited enough to scream ‘DO ME!’ This is when the sexual juices are flowing, and everything is lubricated enough to have a good time. How does this fit into denial? Well I’ll tell you. Denial enters the scene when the foreplay never ends. Yes, you read that right. Foreplay forever! Or at least as long as your partner decides, which is part of the entire foreplay idea. You wait, and learn patience until they are ready for you to pounce. So it seems to me that your brain has been ‘rewired’ to love this form of foreplay, which isn’t really strange at all, especially when you’re enjoying it.