Submissive males, chastity, chastity belts, chastity games, teasing sessions, and cock and ball torture make up a large part of the landscape. Is topping from the bottom generally objectionable? Is it more visual or more about blogging? Does the act of begging do it for you? That seems a bit high-maintenance and needy if you ask me. Perhaps a good mind-fuck is where it's at for some. What floats your pickle?